Being a woman who is very open sexually and proud of who I am has been an interesting experience. It is both liberating and ostracizing. As an adult, I find it much more liberating because I know the people close to me know the real me, and they like me for me. However, it created a lot of conflict and angst when I was a teenager.

Apparently, I am intimidating. I have friends and co-workers who admit that they found me super intimidating when we first met – it is because I am outspoken and opinionated, and confident. Confident women often seem to be labelled intimidating.
For example, I took a first aid course over the weekend, while we were working with the CPR mannequins I opted not to use the stupid little cushion they provide to kneel on. The instructor was very concerned for me, repeatedly telling me that there was a cushion I could use. It eventually got to the point where I said that he had to walk away because it was taking all of my willpower not to say something sexually inappropriate (that it’s okay, I am used to being on my knees).
Well, when that happened, everyone else in the class looked at me awkwardly.

After that, most people in the class avoided eye contact with me – ostracizing.
On the other hand, if I was a man, there was no way that I would have been able to say that out loud without getting into trouble.

I say weird, inappropriate shit all the time. I am so thankful I own a vagina because I would easily have been fired from my job if I was a man.
I hate the double standard. Personally, I think society needs to loosen the fuck up.

My husband and I have been married for a while now, but a good friend of mine is getting married soon. Despite the fact that she has been with her partner for a decade already, I told her to prepare for everyone to ask, “So, how is married life?”
She laughed at me and said that no one was stupid enough to ask that…. everyone knew they had been together for a long time already.
I said it didn’t matter….

Seriously, what the fuck is it with people? Do they actually think that getting married changes things?
Prior to getting married my husband and I had a child already. Getting married didn’t change anything! But people still asked, and were still shocked when I said that married life was the same as before.
Someone enlighten me…. what is supposed to be different???

I understand that in the past (and for some people now), that couples didn’t live together before getting married. And premarital sex was frowned upon (although I am not sold on the fact that it was uncommon).
So asking how married life was was like asking how living together was. Or how the sex was. Those things at least make sense, large changes in life – cohabitating or fucking. But now?? Most people live together before getting married, and most people are fucking before getting married. So what does marriage change?

That is all. End of rant.