How do I identify?
To be honest I am not really sure, especially now with ten million labels an choices. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that the existence of these labels is a bad thing, but people getting so worked up about being accidentally mislabeled is out of control.
I can only imagine that I present to the world as straight/heterosexual woman. Every long-term, romantic relationship I have been in has been with a man; I am married to a man, and my lover is a man. But I am not really comfortable with that label, because women are gorgeous, sexy, sensual, and I love fucking them.
So I am bisexual then?
Maybe? I am not really comfortable with that label either because I cannot see myself being in a romantic relationship with a woman (not saying that it couldn’t happen, because you never know…). I enjoy sex with women, but that is it. It is casual without romantic feelings involved.
Personally, I feel as if a bisexual person is equally as attracted to men and women, and that just isn’t the case for me. Other people may define this differently, and that is not wrong either.
To be honest, this is the label that most people assign to me once they find out I am attracted to women. It doesn’t offend me…. it is just the easiest way to define me.
I haven’t put a lot of thought into this. I could see myself being attracted to someone that isn’t cis-gendered. Actually, if I was going to be in a relationship with a woman I have always assumed that it would be with a transwoman.
But honestly, this doesn’t sit right with me either. Largely, because I don’t want to have to explain what the fuck this is every time I say it.
I have accepted the bisexual label, but feel the need to qualify it with hetero-romantic.
This doesn’t help the problem of excess labeling, but it feels like home to me.